ALEXANDRIA'S ALCHEMY
ALEXANDRIA'S ALCHEMY
Every man and woman has a type—a prototype of someone they NEVER want to be measured up to. For a man, he may not want to be compared to someone handsome, extremely wealthy, intelligent, and well-respected, especially if he himself feels lacking in attractiveness, finances, knowledge, or reputation. For a woman, she may not want to be compared to a woman with a pretty face, a great body, a luxurious lifestyle, a happy relationship, and a successful career.
These comparisons shine a glaring light on perceived shortcomings. This is why many high-caliber individuals encounter jealousy; they trigger others by exposing their unmet desires. As I explored in my entry The Myth of Perfection, it’s often the intentionality of these “ideal” people that causes pain. Thoughts like Why didn’t I think of that? Why didn’t I finish school? Why didn’t I stay in the gym? Why didn’t I save and invest? or Why doesn’t someone want to do that for me? are natural.
Let’s elevate this discussion for a moment—this is Alexandria’s Alchemy, so I have to get a bit unconventional. What if these idealized people don’t actually exist? Strange as it sounds, what if the only reason you’re able to perceive these “perfect” people is because they’re symbols of what’s possible? If you can perceive it, doesn’t that mean you can achieve it?
Consider this: if you’re drawn to that woman with the fit physique, maybe it’s your own soul nudging you toward your fitness goals. Or if that man’s abundance catches your eye, perhaps he’s a mere symbol, inspiring you to take steps toward manifesting a similar reality for yourself. Anything perceivable is achievable.
The desires imprinted in your soul are not random—they’re aligned with who you are meant to become. When you commit to taking the right actions, rooted in integrity and purpose, you set powerful forces in motion. Trust that the universe responds to your karmic efforts, guiding you toward manifesting everything that truly belongs to you.
So what makes you sting with envy? Maybe it’s because it’s meant to motivate you to take action. Thinking this way, jealousy can be transformed into ambition and drive.
For instance, since I was young, I admired a specific look. I thought women like Aaliyah or the actress who played the love interest in Coming to America were stunning, and I aspired to have a similar presence. When I was young, I looked very different, and people who see my childhood photos are often surprised by how much I’ve changed. Early on, I learned that you can embody any essence you want and even amplify it with glamour. Scientifically, we rejuvenate ourselves every few months (about every 90 days), so you can literally shift into a new vibration or essence.
Today, I’ve taken on the essence of the women I found beautiful. Sometimes, I even adopt traits from contemporary muses, and I know it’s working when people mention that I remind them of those figures. I don’t get jealous or think it’s unattainable; I just use them as inspiration for my own look.
This approach applies to all aspects of life. As you grow, you’ll have ideals of your highest self. Start with any envy or jealousy you feel—it’s simply a signal of desires to be manifested in a healthy way. Don’t become overly attached or try to copy others’ lives directly; instead, be holistically inspired by the beacons the universe sends to guide you toward your highest self.
That person you don’t want to be measured up against? Use them as a guide toward your highest version. Before long, you’ll be that beacon for others. Some may “hate you ’cause they ain’t you,” and that’s fine—that’s how the cycle continues!
Comparison is the thief of joy—it shifts focus from what’s achievable to what’s out of reach. Instead of letting others’ success dim your light, reject any unattainable ideals and embrace the things within your power to change. Each small, intentional step you take toward your goal is progress. Focus on what you can control, and you’ll be amazed at the joy that comes from watching yourself grow.
Here’s a list of practical steps to alchemize envy and jealousy into fuel for becoming your highest self:
Identify Triggers of Envy and Jealousy
Notice what traits, accomplishments, or lifestyles trigger envy or jealousy in you. Write these down without judgment. Reflect on why these specific qualities resonate with you. Is it something you genuinely desire or feel is lacking in your life?
Reframe Jealousy as Inspiration
Instead of seeing others’ achievements or qualities as threats, view them as evidence of what’s possible for you. Tell yourself, If I can see it, I can achieve it. Reframe jealousy as a signal of untapped potential within you.
Break Down Desires into Goals
Take each aspect that you admire in others and translate it into clear, actionable goals. For example, if you’re envious of someone’s fitness, start setting weekly exercise goals. Create a plan for how you can realistically begin to integrate these goals into your life.
Embrace Self-Improvement, Not Comparison
Focus on improving yourself rather than competing with others. Set milestones that are meaningful to you, not based on others’ achievements. Track your own progress, reminding yourself that growth is personal and doesn’t need to match someone else’s journey.
Visualize Your Highest Self
Regularly envision your ideal self, including all the traits and achievements you’re working toward. Let this vision guide your daily actions. Create a vision board or affirmations that align with the qualities you want to embody.
Learn from Your “Muses”
Study those you admire—whether it’s their work ethic, their mindset, or specific habits they practice. Take notes on what qualities they possess that you’d like to adopt, and find ways to bring these qualities into your own routines.
Cultivate Self-Compassion and Patience
Understand that change takes time. Give yourself grace as you work toward these goals. Remind yourself that your journey is unique, and growth isn’t about instant transformation.
Channel Envy into Actionable Steps
When feelings of jealousy arise, immediately turn that energy into an actionable step toward your goals. For example, if you feel envy about someone’s career, spend time working on your own professional development—take a course, update your resume, or network.
Commit to Your Own Growth Daily
Turn your focus inward, asking yourself daily, What can I do today to be a little closer to my ideal self? Stay consistent with self-development routines, making a conscious effort to become the person you once envied.
Surround Yourself with Supportive People
Connect with others who uplift and inspire you, rather than those who fuel comparison and competition. Seek out mentors, friends, or online communities that share similar goals and values to reinforce your journey.
Transform Envy into Admiration and Gratitude
Practice viewing those who trigger envy with admiration instead. Gratitude for what they represent allows you to focus on self-growth instead of lack. Express gratitude for the role models who motivate you to pursue your highest self, as they reveal new possibilities.
By following these steps, you can transform envy and jealousy into powerful motivators, alchemizing these feelings into growth and fulfillment on your journey to becoming your highest self!
Every man and woman has a type—a prototype of someone they NEVER want to be measured up to. For a man, he may not want to be compared to someone handsome, extremely wealthy, intelligent, and well-respected, especially if he himself feels lacking in attractiveness, finances, knowledge, or reputation. For a woman, she may not want to be compared to a woman with a pretty face, a great body, a luxurious lifestyle, a happy relationship, and a successful career.
These comparisons shine a glaring light on perceived shortcomings. This is why many high-caliber individuals encounter jealousy; they trigger others by exposing their unmet desires. As I explored in my entry The Myth of Perfection, it’s often the intentionality of these “ideal” people that causes pain. Thoughts like Why didn’t I think of that? Why didn’t I finish school? Why didn’t I stay in the gym? Why didn’t I save and invest? or Why doesn’t someone want to do that for me? are natural.
Let’s elevate this discussion for a moment—this is Alexandria’s Alchemy, so I have to get a bit unconventional. What if these idealized people don’t actually exist? Strange as it sounds, what if the only reason you’re able to perceive these “perfect” people is because they’re symbols of what’s possible? If you can perceive it, doesn’t that mean you can achieve it?
Consider this: if you’re drawn to that woman with the fit physique, maybe it’s your own soul nudging you toward your fitness goals. Or if that man’s abundance catches your eye, perhaps he’s a mere symbol, inspiring you to take steps toward manifesting a similar reality for yourself. Anything perceivable is achievable.
The desires imprinted in your soul are not random—they’re aligned with who you are meant to become. When you commit to taking the right actions, rooted in integrity and purpose, you set powerful forces in motion. Trust that the universe responds to your karmic efforts, guiding you toward manifesting everything that truly belongs to you.
So what makes you sting with envy? Maybe it’s because it’s meant to motivate you to take action. Thinking this way, jealousy can be transformed into ambition and drive.
For instance, since I was young, I admired a specific look. I thought women like Aaliyah or the actress who played the love interest in Coming to America were stunning, and I aspired to have a similar presence. When I was young, I looked very different, and people who see my childhood photos are often surprised by how much I’ve changed. Early on, I learned that you can embody any essence you want and even amplify it with glamour. Scientifically, we rejuvenate ourselves every few months (about every 90 days), so you can literally shift into a new vibration or essence.
Today, I’ve taken on the essence of the women I found beautiful. Sometimes, I even adopt traits from contemporary muses, and I know it’s working when people mention that I remind them of those figures. I don’t get jealous or think it’s unattainable; I just use them as inspiration for my own look.
This approach applies to all aspects of life. As you grow, you’ll have ideals of your highest self. Start with any envy or jealousy you feel—it’s simply a signal of desires to be manifested in a healthy way. Don’t become overly attached or try to copy others’ lives directly; instead, be holistically inspired by the beacons the universe sends to guide you toward your highest self.
That person you don’t want to be measured up against? Use them as a guide toward your highest version. Before long, you’ll be that beacon for others. Some may “hate you ’cause they ain’t you,” and that’s fine—that’s how the cycle continues!
Comparison is the thief of joy—it shifts focus from what’s achievable to what’s out of reach. Instead of letting others’ success dim your light, reject any unattainable ideals and embrace the things within your power to change. Each small, intentional step you take toward your goal is progress. Focus on what you can control, and you’ll be amazed at the joy that comes from watching yourself grow.
Here’s a list of practical steps to alchemize envy and jealousy into fuel for becoming your highest self:
Identify Triggers of Envy and Jealousy
Notice what traits, accomplishments, or lifestyles trigger envy or jealousy in you. Write these down without judgment. Reflect on why these specific qualities resonate with you. Is it something you genuinely desire or feel is lacking in your life?
Reframe Jealousy as Inspiration
Instead of seeing others’ achievements or qualities as threats, view them as evidence of what’s possible for you. Tell yourself, If I can see it, I can achieve it. Reframe jealousy as a signal of untapped potential within you.
Break Down Desires into Goals
Take each aspect that you admire in others and translate it into clear, actionable goals. For example, if you’re envious of someone’s fitness, start setting weekly exercise goals. Create a plan for how you can realistically begin to integrate these goals into your life.
Embrace Self-Improvement, Not Comparison
Focus on improving yourself rather than competing with others. Set milestones that are meaningful to you, not based on others’ achievements. Track your own progress, reminding yourself that growth is personal and doesn’t need to match someone else’s journey.
Visualize Your Highest Self
Regularly envision your ideal self, including all the traits and achievements you’re working toward. Let this vision guide your daily actions. Create a vision board or affirmations that align with the qualities you want to embody.
Learn from Your “Muses”
Study those you admire—whether it’s their work ethic, their mindset, or specific habits they practice. Take notes on what qualities they possess that you’d like to adopt, and find ways to bring these qualities into your own routines.
Cultivate Self-Compassion and Patience
Understand that change takes time. Give yourself grace as you work toward these goals. Remind yourself that your journey is unique, and growth isn’t about instant transformation.
Channel Envy into Actionable Steps
When feelings of jealousy arise, immediately turn that energy into an actionable step toward your goals. For example, if you feel envy about someone’s career, spend time working on your own professional development—take a course, update your resume, or network.
Commit to Your Own Growth Daily
Turn your focus inward, asking yourself daily, What can I do today to be a little closer to my ideal self? Stay consistent with self-development routines, making a conscious effort to become the person you once envied.
Surround Yourself with Supportive People
Connect with others who uplift and inspire you, rather than those who fuel comparison and competition. Seek out mentors, friends, or online communities that share similar goals and values to reinforce your journey.
Transform Envy into Admiration and Gratitude
Practice viewing those who trigger envy with admiration instead. Gratitude for what they represent allows you to focus on self-growth instead of lack. Express gratitude for the role models who motivate you to pursue your highest self, as they reveal new possibilities.
By following these steps, you can transform envy and jealousy into powerful motivators, alchemizing these feelings into growth and fulfillment on your journey to becoming your highest self!