What Makes Holidays So Special?

The festivity, intentionality, and rarity. Every 365 days, we set aside time to create a moment to celebrate. Holidays are a novelty. It’s the same thing with that TV show that premieres a season every two years (which is so annoying), or that family member who lives abroad and only comes home every few years, or that special-edition something or another that has limited stock. Scarcity breeds fondness. Novelty breeds excitement and greater appreciation. You can apply this concept to almost anything. But in this entry, I want to talk about making yourself a novelty. This, of course, is only for people who can withstand not being seen or observed for a long period of time. This is for the reader who wants to cultivate mystery.

#1 Make Yourself Scarce

It’s exhausting to be everywhere all the time. People become familiar with you, yes, but also bored. They’ve figured you out, they know your moves, they can assume how you will dress, smell, your demeanor. Familiarity breeds contempt. If you’re always around, you’re less likely to be appreciated. You’d think “in sight, in mind,” but not always. It is very easy to be overlooked because you’ve just blended into the furniture. Instead, make yourself scarce. Don’t attend every event or party in the city. Go to places that are elevated and aligned with exclusivity like private events, galas, etc. Pop up and show out sparingly and watch the difference in fondness for you.

#2 Leave A LOT to the Imagination

Today, everyone posts everything on social media. It’s a form of expression, and I get it. However, sharing all of your aspects, doubts, hopes, wishes, and desires makes you vulnerable. There are people observing just to be nosy and curious, people who want to see you down and are gleeful when you’re not doing well, and even predatory men and women who will study you to mirror you and gain advantage. Leave a little mystery when it comes to your being. You don’t have to be an open book. In fact, it’s more alluring to have some mystery and something to discover or find out.

#3 Don’t Do Too Much Social Media

People feel like they’ve seen others far more often than they have because they see them on their phones. People you’ve met once or twice become familiar with you because you broadcast your day-to-day. Same with people you’re dating. I’ve heard women say some men don’t ask them out because they spend more time talking on the phone and sharing pictures like pen pals, even though they live in the same city. To evoke a real desire to connect with friends, family, and lovers, don’t give them 24/7 digital access. You’ll feel and appear less common, more mysterious, and more desirable.

#4 Never Linger

This is a big one for me. I’ve done it in the past, and it feels awkward and like you don’t have a life. When you’re at a social event, leave before it ends. Don’t ask for the afterparty or the hangout. Move on and go home. If you’re waiting for someone to stop talking, stay where you are and let them find you. Don’t linger around waiting for the conversation to end. If you’re dating someone who’s not giving you attention, find entertainment elsewhere, make a new friend, go to the bathroom, or if he’s rude, just leave. If someone upsets you, don’t sit there and stew—this creates a spectacle. Keep your composure and move around. And if you find someone attractive and he hasn’t approached you yet, don’t orbit around him hoping he makes a move. I see this all the time, and it’s cringy. The guy probably notices and is using your energy as an ego boost. Men aren’t stupid. He’ll come to you if he really wants you and is available. In short: never linger. A novelty is special because it is fleeting, scarce, and rare. Get lost!

#5 Don’t Overshare

This ties back to leaving something to the imagination, and especially not writing long dissertations on social media. Nothing ruins novelty like oversharing. Think about the word magic. Magic is a form of entertainment. A magician has tricks, and their work appears otherworldly because of clever secrets. If a magician reveals all their secrets, there’s no more magic. Let people guess and keep some secrets. Oversharing ruins your magic and sometimes your appeal. Hold dear what makes you special. People often ask me how I manage everything—running a family, a home, a business, keeping up with fitness, and still having time for beauty treatments and blogging. How do I do all this while appearing put-together? I don’t know. I’m magic.

#6 Glamour

Have you noticed that holidays have themes? On Christmas, we have colors, symbols, music, an entire vibe. What if you adorned yourself with that same intentionality? As an intentional person, nothing about me is by accident. I style my hair inspired by a muse, wear clothing that evokes respect and attraction, and scents that remind people of a resort because that’s my vibe. My makeup enhances my natural beauty, emphasizing my eyes and lips. I’ve studied what makes people attractive: clear skin (I formulated a facial oil for glowing skin), white teeth (I had gum surgery to get closer to the golden ratio), and healthy, long hair. These are my secrets. This self-grooming often leaves people abashed. I’m not a supermodel, yet after adorning myself, women call me gorgeous, and men look but are deterred by my appearance’s intentionality. That’s the magic of glamour. Treat yourself like a Christmas tree, meticulously adorning yourself to be a true novelty and holiday.

#7 Be A Brand

For what you share with the world, keep it consistent, then occasionally switch it up. When people describe me, they say I exude luxury, have a nicely decorated home, do makeup well, dress stylishly, am sociable, create new things, have interesting music taste, cook healthy food, and work out. If I wanted to create a lifestyle brand, I’d have plenty to go off of with my reputation. You should also have a personal brand of positive attributes. Whether you’re the fitness girl who hikes or the party girl who hosts the best gatherings, give them something to talk about that’s surface-level. Avoid reputations rooted in drama or negativity. You’re a world, a destination. What can people expect when they visit your world or celebrate your holiday? For me, they can expect an ambiance with soothing music, aromatherapy, attractive interiors, good food, and elements that promote health and vitality. Reflect on your attributes and emphasize them. This is the side people can see; save everything else for your trusted circle.

Conclusion

The charm of holidays lies in their scarcity, intentionality, and allure—qualities that make them memorable. By weaving these elements into our lives, we can become a living novelty. When we present ourselves with the same care we give to special occasions, we invite others to experience us as something rare and captivating, leaving a lasting impression and a sense of wonder.