ALEXANDRIA'S ALCHEMY
ALEXANDRIA'S ALCHEMY
TRUTH AND PERSPECTIVE
The idea that “truth is malleable” can be unsettling, but it also empowers us. When we recognize that everyone filters experiences through their own perspectives, we can understand why two people might walk away from the same conversation with entirely different understandings. One might interpret through a lens of past hurt, another through hope or doubt—each creating a unique “truth” based on their own inner landscape. This isn’t a flaw in anyone; it’s simply human nature. Our realities are subjective because they’re shaped by our individual minds and experiences.
When it comes to shaping our lives, this understanding of perspective can be powerful. We all have the ability to influence our reality by aligning our focus with what we genuinely want. A balanced mind—a mind that can see both the light and the shadow in things—has a much greater capacity to create a life that feels fulfilling, rather than simply responding to others’ projections or opinions.
Reaching a state of inner balance, often referred to as “zero-point energy” or neutrality, helps us let go of the need to control how others see us. In a place of neutrality, we find that it’s no longer necessary to chase approval or validation. This can be freeing, especially if you’ve spent time trying to meet expectations placed on you by others who, in their own struggles, may not have all the answers. Realize that life itself is the best teacher, and that every experience is a chance to learn and grow. No book or external advice will fully replace the guidance that comes from within.
Living in harmony with your own truth won’t always sit well with others, and that’s okay. True peace often involves accepting that it’s perfectly fine to agree to disagree. Not everyone will understand your journey, and some may even project their insecurities onto you. This isn’t a reflection of you, but rather a sign of their own challenges. Sometimes, others may try to “help” or “correct” you, but their actions often stem from a need to control or make sense of their own world.
In these moments, remember that you don’t need anyone else’s approval to live your life authentically. Stay true to your values and your unique path. If others question your choices or make assumptions, it’s not about you—it’s about them. You’re on your own journey, and it’s enough to live in a way that feels right for you.
Finding a place of inner peace, health, and creativity, as well as forming supportive connections, is a powerful achievement. Life is subjective, and truth is indeed malleable, but you have the power to craft a reality that brings you fulfillment and purpose. Embrace that, and know that your journey is valid just as it is.
FIGHTING AGAINST PAST VERSIONS
Sometimes, people hold onto outdated versions of who we once were, believing that we’re unchanged despite all the growth and transformation we’ve experienced. They may assume we’re still defined by past behaviors or old ways of thinking, failing to see how much we’ve evolved. This tendency to make assumptions can be frustrating, especially when we’ve worked hard to create positive changes in our lives.
But remember, those who cling to these old perceptions do so because it’s easier than adjusting their perspective to our growth. Their assumptions don’t define us—they reflect a limited understanding of who we are today. Embrace your progress with confidence, knowing that you are not obligated to fit into anyone else’s outdated view of you. Instead, keep moving forward, trusting in your journey, and letting your actions speak to the person you are now.
WELL INTENDED, ILL EQUIPPED
There are people who, though well-intended, may try to guide others from a place of perceived superiority rather than true support. They often overlook or deny their own flaws, focusing instead on “helping” those around them. This tendency to cast doubt or project insecurities onto others often serves as a way to avoid confronting the messiness in their own lives. Underneath the advice and unsolicited “guidance” can lie a desire to control or deflect attention from their own struggles.
It’s important to recognize that real support comes from a place of humility and self-awareness. People who are genuinely capable of guiding others don’t need to pretend they have it all figured out. Instead, they acknowledge their own imperfections and offer empathy rather than judgment. When someone’s support feels loaded with hidden agendas or veiled criticism, it’s okay to step back, protect your peace, and trust in your own path.
CONSIDER THE SOURCE
In life, it’s essential to discern between those who genuinely mean well and those who try to exert control by acting as a “guide.” True guidance empowers and respects your journey, offering support without expectation. But sometimes, people present themselves as helpers while subtly pushing their own agendas, seeking control, or distracting from their own struggles.
When someone offers you advice, it’s worth asking yourself: What might be the karmic repercussions of following their guidance? Will their influence lead you to a better place or into unnecessary challenges? Consider their own life as a reflection of their advice—is it a place you aspire to be, or are you seeing a smoke-and-mirrors effect?
By examining where they’re coming from, and whether their intentions align with your best interests, you can make more mindful choices about whose guidance to follow. Real guidance respects your autonomy and seeks to uplift without binding you to someone else’s perspective or unresolved issues. Trust in your ability to recognize these distinctions and choose paths that feel genuinely aligned with your growth and well-being.
DISCERNMENT
It’s wise to stay open to hearing other people’s perspectives, no matter how much we’ve grown or learned. Every viewpoint has the potential to broaden our understanding, reveal hidden insights, or challenge us to think in new ways. But while openness is a strength, discernment is essential.
Listen carefully to what others have to say, yet consider the source. Reflect on whether the person offering advice is genuinely aligned with your values, whether their life reflects the kind of outcomes you desire, and whether their words resonate with your inner truth. Not all advice is meant to be followed, and some perspectives may serve more as a mirror for others’ unresolved issues than as a path forward for you.
Balancing openness with discernment allows you to stay receptive to wisdom without losing your own compass. Remember, staying grounded in your own truth means you can learn from others without being led astray.
AN EXAMPLE OF MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH THIS
For example, I befriended a girl from Instagram who could see what I was doing, what I had, and what I believed in. I did tarot; she did tarot. I liked luxury; she liked luxury. I was business-minded; she was business-minded. However, something felt off. She clung to me almost obsessively and tried to force a closer relationship. My friends told me she was odd but I thought she was sweet.
Side Note: This is why I caution against posting too much online. Some people will watch and study you to mirror your beliefs and get close. Recently, someone I met at a networking event found me online and sent a screenshot of a playlist they’d made with all the songs I’d posted on my IG stories, dating back to who knows when. They named the playlist “Cozy,” and the screenshot’s timestamp showed 4:44 (game recognize game, lol). Anybody who knows me knows I love angel numbers. I say this to point out that people are watching! Not to say this person had bad intentions—they might just like my music taste—but it goes to show how closely people pay attention.
Soon enough, she started giving unsolicited advice, whether telling me not to wear something or suggesting business ventures. When I’d decline, she’d post eerily similar things to what we had just discussed. If she’d say, “I wouldn’t wear that to a dinner,” and I’d respond with, “Girl, I’m going to wear what I want,” the next day she’d post a long PSA about “appropriate attire for certain settings.” Or, if I turned down a business venture, she’d start posting about people “trying to keep up with the Joneses,” flaunting designer bags and luxury cars (things she’d compliment me on) but “living paycheck to paycheck and not being business-minded.” (Girl, ask my financial advisor—I don’t need a get-rich-quick scheme.) Meanwhile, I was in my mid-20s, owned a home with an unbeatable interest rate (2.5%), got the luxury vehicle I always wanted way lower than MSRP, had several investments, and a strong savings account. Of course, she couldn’t see that; she only saw things from her own perspective.
Side Note: Remember my entry, The Myth of Perfection? This girl couldn’t see my intentional nature; she only saw a “perfect” girl and tried her best to cast doubt. She had to prove to herself that things weren’t as good as they seemed in my life. Whether it was my finances, my relationship, or the way I presented myself to the world, she tried to worm her way in and prove that it wasn’t real. She was a hustler, had a child with a man she didn’t end up with, and was unhappy with her appearance. Once again, do you see the projection? Instead, if she took notes, and turned her Green Into Gold, she would’ve elevated!
Her passive aggression, unsolicited advice, and subliminal posts were getting out of hand. The final straw was when we went out, and she pestered me about another friend, asking, “What’s going on with you two? You guys kept looking at each other.” I genuinely think she believed she was my girlfriend. It felt like she was trying to exert control and assumed I wanted her approval. I didn’t. Back then, I wasn’t the best at vetting people, but the experience taught me a lot about human nature and dark psychology.
I’ve encountered people like this before (and still do). The moment you don’t follow their lead, they think something is wrong with you. They’ll create scenarios, psychoanalyze, and obsess, even when you’re not around, because they couldn’t “bring you in line” or get you to do what they wanted you to do. She wanted to “save me,” thinking I was misguided for not doing things her way. Meanwhile, I was in a much better situation than she was. You see the projection. Thankfully, those who saw my light, studied me, and tried to pull me down are out of my life… and some are struggling. They should’ve used all that energy and “karmic” effort to better their own situations. Oh well.
TRUTH AND PERSPECTIVE
The idea that “truth is malleable” can be unsettling, but it also empowers us. When we recognize that everyone filters experiences through their own perspectives, we can understand why two people might walk away from the same conversation with entirely different understandings. One might interpret through a lens of past hurt, another through hope or doubt—each creating a unique “truth” based on their own inner landscape. This isn’t a flaw in anyone; it’s simply human nature. Our realities are subjective because they’re shaped by our individual minds and experiences.
When it comes to shaping our lives, this understanding of perspective can be powerful. We all have the ability to influence our reality by aligning our focus with what we genuinely want. A balanced mind—a mind that can see both the light and the shadow in things—has a much greater capacity to create a life that feels fulfilling, rather than simply responding to others’ projections or opinions.
Reaching a state of inner balance, often referred to as “zero-point energy” or neutrality, helps us let go of the need to control how others see us. In a place of neutrality, we find that it’s no longer necessary to chase approval or validation. This can be freeing, especially if you’ve spent time trying to meet expectations placed on you by others who, in their own struggles, may not have all the answers. Realize that life itself is the best teacher, and that every experience is a chance to learn and grow. No book or external advice will fully replace the guidance that comes from within.
Living in harmony with your own truth won’t always sit well with others, and that’s okay. True peace often involves accepting that it’s perfectly fine to agree to disagree. Not everyone will understand your journey, and some may even project their insecurities onto you. This isn’t a reflection of you, but rather a sign of their own challenges. Sometimes, others may try to “help” or “correct” you, but their actions often stem from a need to control or make sense of their own world.
In these moments, remember that you don’t need anyone else’s approval to live your life authentically. Stay true to your values and your unique path. If others question your choices or make assumptions, it’s not about you—it’s about them. You’re on your own journey, and it’s enough to live in a way that feels right for you.
Finding a place of inner peace, health, and creativity, as well as forming supportive connections, is a powerful achievement. Life is subjective, and truth is indeed malleable, but you have the power to craft a reality that brings you fulfillment and purpose. Embrace that, and know that your journey is valid just as it is.
FIGHTING AGAINST PAST VERSIONS
Sometimes, people hold onto outdated versions of who we once were, believing that we’re unchanged despite all the growth and transformation we’ve experienced. They may assume we’re still defined by past behaviors or old ways of thinking, failing to see how much we’ve evolved. This tendency to make assumptions can be frustrating, especially when we’ve worked hard to create positive changes in our lives.
But remember, those who cling to these old perceptions do so because it’s easier than adjusting their perspective to our growth. Their assumptions don’t define us—they reflect a limited understanding of who we are today. Embrace your progress with confidence, knowing that you are not obligated to fit into anyone else’s outdated view of you. Instead, keep moving forward, trusting in your journey, and letting your actions speak to the person you are now.
WELL INTENDED, ILL EQUIPPED
There are people who, though well-intended, may try to guide others from a place of perceived superiority rather than true support. They often overlook or deny their own flaws, focusing instead on “helping” those around them. This tendency to cast doubt or project insecurities onto others often serves as a way to avoid confronting the messiness in their own lives. Underneath the advice and unsolicited “guidance” can lie a desire to control or deflect attention from their own struggles.
It’s important to recognize that real support comes from a place of humility and self-awareness. People who are genuinely capable of guiding others don’t need to pretend they have it all figured out. Instead, they acknowledge their own imperfections and offer empathy rather than judgment. When someone’s support feels loaded with hidden agendas or veiled criticism, it’s okay to step back, protect your peace, and trust in your own path.
CONSIDER THE SOURCE
In life, it’s essential to discern between those who genuinely mean well and those who try to exert control by acting as a “guide.” True guidance empowers and respects your journey, offering support without expectation. But sometimes, people present themselves as helpers while subtly pushing their own agendas, seeking control, or distracting from their own struggles.
When someone offers you advice, it’s worth asking yourself: What might be the karmic repercussions of following their guidance? Will their influence lead you to a better place or into unnecessary challenges? Consider their own life as a reflection of their advice—is it a place you aspire to be, or are you seeing a smoke-and-mirrors effect?
By examining where they’re coming from, and whether their intentions align with your best interests, you can make more mindful choices about whose guidance to follow. Real guidance respects your autonomy and seeks to uplift without binding you to someone else’s perspective or unresolved issues. Trust in your ability to recognize these distinctions and choose paths that feel genuinely aligned with your growth and well-being.
DISCERNMENT
It’s wise to stay open to hearing other people’s perspectives, no matter how much we’ve grown or learned. Every viewpoint has the potential to broaden our understanding, reveal hidden insights, or challenge us to think in new ways. But while openness is a strength, discernment is essential.
Listen carefully to what others have to say, yet consider the source. Reflect on whether the person offering advice is genuinely aligned with your values, whether their life reflects the kind of outcomes you desire, and whether their words resonate with your inner truth. Not all advice is meant to be followed, and some perspectives may serve more as a mirror for others’ unresolved issues than as a path forward for you.
Balancing openness with discernment allows you to stay receptive to wisdom without losing your own compass. Remember, staying grounded in your own truth means you can learn from others without being led astray.
AN EXAMPLE OF MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH THIS
For example, I befriended a girl from Instagram who could see what I was doing, what I had, and what I believed in. I did tarot; she did tarot. I liked luxury; she liked luxury. I was business-minded; she was business-minded. However, something felt off. She clung to me almost obsessively and tried to force a closer relationship. My friends told me she was odd but I thought she was sweet.
Side Note: This is why I caution against posting too much online. Some people will watch and study you to mirror your beliefs and get close. Recently, someone I met at a networking event found me online and sent a screenshot of a playlist they’d made with all the songs I’d posted on my IG stories, dating back to who knows when. They named the playlist “Cozy,” and the screenshot’s timestamp showed 4:44 (game recognize game, lol). Anybody who knows me knows I love angel numbers. I say this to point out that people are watching! Not to say this person had bad intentions—they might just like my music taste—but it goes to show how closely people pay attention.
Soon enough, she started giving unsolicited advice, whether telling me not to wear something or suggesting business ventures. When I’d decline, she’d post eerily similar things to what we had just discussed. If she’d say, “I wouldn’t wear that to a dinner,” and I’d respond with, “Girl, I’m going to wear what I want,” the next day she’d post a long PSA about “appropriate attire for certain settings.” Or, if I turned down a business venture, she’d start posting about people “trying to keep up with the Joneses,” flaunting designer bags and luxury cars (things she’d compliment me on) but “living paycheck to paycheck and not being business-minded.” (Girl, ask my financial advisor—I don’t need a get-rich-quick scheme.) Meanwhile, I was in my mid-20s, owned a home with an unbeatable interest rate (2.5%), got the luxury vehicle I always wanted way lower than MSRP, had several investments, and a strong savings account. Of course, she couldn’t see that; she only saw things from her own perspective.
Side Note: Remember my entry, The Myth of Perfection? This girl couldn’t see my intentional nature; she only saw a “perfect” girl and tried her best to cast doubt. She had to prove to herself that things weren’t as good as they seemed in my life. Whether it was my finances, my relationship, or the way I presented myself to the world, she tried to worm her way in and prove that it wasn’t real. She was a hustler, had a child with a man she didn’t end up with, and was unhappy with her appearance. Once again, do you see the projection? Instead, if she took notes, and turned her Green Into Gold, she would’ve elevated!
Her passive aggression, unsolicited advice, and subliminal posts were getting out of hand. The final straw was when we went out, and she pestered me about another friend, asking, “What’s going on with you two? You guys kept looking at each other.” I genuinely think she believed she was my girlfriend. It felt like she was trying to exert control and assumed I wanted her approval. I didn’t. Back then, I wasn’t the best at vetting people, but the experience taught me a lot about human nature and dark psychology.
I’ve encountered people like this before (and still do). The moment you don’t follow their lead, they think something is wrong with you. They’ll create scenarios, psychoanalyze, and obsess, even when you’re not around, because they couldn’t “bring you in line” or get you to do what they wanted you to do. She wanted to “save me,” thinking I was misguided for not doing things her way. Meanwhile, I was in a much better situation than she was. You see the projection. Thankfully, those who saw my light, studied me, and tried to pull me down are out of my life… and some are struggling. They should’ve used all that energy and “karmic” effort to better their own situations. Oh well.