ALEXANDRIA'S ALCHEMY

ALEXANDRIA'S ALCHEMY

“You have options. Allowing a man to drain your energy helps no one. These years are crucial, and the person you partner with affects the trajectory of your life.”

Lose a Lover > Love a Loser | This post is strictly for the girls 25+!

We are constantly creating our reality. In any relationship, our partner reflects our expectations, subconscious beliefs, and self-esteem. It is often said that your partner is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself, and this is true. I always say, you can’t be done wrong if you’re not around. So, whatever you accept, you are either okay with it or feel that you deserve it to some extent. Sometimes, the other person isn’t necessarily a bad person, but even their shortcomings can mirror how you truly feel about yourself. You may have a subconscious belief that you don’t deserve nice things or that whatever you’re experiencing is the best you’re going to get. It is all nuanced, but today, I want to talk about a dilemma many women face: whether to love a loser or lose a lover.

I know a lot of women, and the things they put up with are unbelievable. Beyond emotional or physical abuse, many women let a lot of things slide. Contrary to popular belief, there are so many men online claiming that women won’t date them unless they have money, are 6’4” with muscles, or fit some unrealistic fantasy. However, this is simply not true. I know hardworking women who date men who are chronically unemployed. I know model-type women dating short men who would be homeless if it weren’t for their mothers. I’ve seen it all. Outside of the internet and red-pill rhetoric, women are often with men who are beneath them in some way. As a bystander, I’ve watched time and time again as these women give these men chances, only for them to mess it up in the worst way. I’ve learned that men who are lacking are prone to complacency, self-sabotage, overt toxic feminine energy (disguised as grandiosity), and draining women’s feminine energy.

Recently, one of my friends was dating a man who had the stability of a page but the emotional intelligence of a king. This is a difficult dynamic because, emotionally, he could provide, but physically, he could not. It’s an odd pairing because as a king, you want your woman to be dependent in some way, but can she really rest on your house of cards? I watched my friend, regress in ways she never had before. He brought her into his world, where he relied on someone else for shelter, but she relied on him for her basic needs. Soon, she realized why he was in the situation he was in. Despite appearances, he had some loser-like habits—chronically playing video games, sleeping all day, and lacking ambition. She found herself in a regressed position where she wasn’t thriving. Then, something happened, and they broke up. As soon as that happened, everything started falling into place for her. Job opportunities fell into her lap, she regained mobility, became active again, and aligned with a king who inspired her. This is so important. I always talk about vetting for your safety net, but there are checks you should continue to do even in the relationship.

This post is for women 25 and up! By this age, we are too grown to be entertaining men who drain our energy and stunt our growth. Now, let’s be clear—men who are still building aren’t necessarily “losers.” Ambition takes time, and success isn’t always instant. However, a true loser is someone whose habits actively sabotage their own security and stability. This includes men who are chronically complacent, emotionally unstable, or even abusive.

I chose an image of Cassie and Diddy for a reason. Not only did Cassie’s song Love A Loser inspire this post, but her relationship with Diddy also perfectly aligns with the message. Sometimes, women stay in situations far past their expiration date, believing they can love a man into his potential. But at what cost? If a man’s presence in your life brings more stress than stability, it may be time to let him go.

As a woman, you need to ask yourself:

Now that I am in this relationship, has it ignited my spark, or is it dimming it? How is my health? Is he encouraging me to regress visually—like prodding me not to wear makeup or wear certain things? Is he trying to make me dependent in ways that make me feel inferior? How is my mental health? Does he bring drama? Am I still attracted to his qualities? Am I thriving in all aspects?

“Your partner is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself.”

You must ask yourself these questions. As a sovereign beauty, you need to exercise your options and learn how to leave losers. You aren’t helping anyone by allowing men to siphon your energy. These years are critical, and who you pair with seriously affects the trajectory of your life.

Before my husband, I was with someone who wasn’t truly aligned with who I was or the lifestyle I wanted to live. I unapologetically let that go, and my life seriously changed for the better. I aligned with someone disciplined, enterprising, generous (we love that), and very direct about their intentions and what they wanted. This pairing has elevated me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. He couldn’t be a loser if he tried. (Side note: I’m watching random videos on YouTube, and as I type this, “No Scrubs” by TLC just came on—LMAO, ASEEEE!) And you know what? Hell yeah. Spirit says we don’t want no scrubs!

Remember Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. You can’t truly be an alchemist or self-actualize when you and your partner are living pillar to post or if you’re dealing with someone who brings drama. Until you find your divine king—someone who offers both emotional and financial stability and security—be a sovereign beauty. Make sure you are vetting thoroughly, and even after all of that, know your options, avoid specific archetypes, and forgive yourself for ever entertaining losers.

Be comfortable LOSING A LOSER.

“You have options. Allowing a man to drain your energy helps no one. These years are crucial, and the person you partner with affects the trajectory of your life.”

Lose a Lover > Love a Loser | This post is strictly for the girls 25+!

We are constantly creating our reality. In any relationship, our partner reflects our expectations, subconscious beliefs, and self-esteem. It is often said that your partner is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself, and this is true. I always say, you can’t be done wrong if you’re not around. So, whatever you accept, you are either okay with it or feel that you deserve it to some extent. Sometimes, the other person isn’t necessarily a bad person, but even their shortcomings can mirror how you truly feel about yourself. You may have a subconscious belief that you don’t deserve nice things or that whatever you’re experiencing is the best you’re going to get. It is all nuanced, but today, I want to talk about a dilemma many women face: whether to love a loser or lose a lover.

I know a lot of women, and the things they put up with are unbelievable. Beyond emotional or physical abuse, many women let a lot of things slide. Contrary to popular belief, there are so many men online claiming that women won’t date them unless they have money, are 6’4” with muscles, or fit some unrealistic fantasy. However, this is simply not true. I know hardworking women who date men who are chronically unemployed. I know model-type women dating short men who would be homeless if it weren’t for their mothers. I’ve seen it all. Outside of the internet and red-pill rhetoric, women are often with men who are beneath them in some way. As a bystander, I’ve watched time and time again as these women give these men chances, only for them to mess it up in the worst way. I’ve learned that men who are lacking are prone to complacency, self-sabotage, overt toxic feminine energy (disguised as grandiosity), and draining women’s feminine energy.

Recently, one of my friends was dating a man who had the stability of a page but the emotional intelligence of a king. This is a difficult dynamic because, emotionally, he could provide, but physically, he could not. It’s an odd pairing because as a king, you want your woman to be dependent in some way, but can she really rest on your house of cards? I watched my friend, regress in ways she never had before. He brought her into his world, where he relied on someone else for shelter, but she relied on him for her basic needs. Soon, she realized why he was in the situation he was in. Despite appearances, he had some loser-like habits—chronically playing video games, sleeping all day, and lacking ambition. She found herself in a regressed position where she wasn’t thriving. Then, something happened, and they broke up. As soon as that happened, everything started falling into place for her. Job opportunities fell into her lap, she regained mobility, became active again, and aligned with a king who inspired her. This is so important. I always talk about vetting for your safety net, but there are checks you should continue to do even in the relationship.

This post is for women 25 and up! By this age, we are too grown to be entertaining men who drain our energy and stunt our growth. Now, let’s be clear—men who are still building aren’t necessarily “losers.” Ambition takes time, and success isn’t always instant. However, a true loser is someone whose habits actively sabotage their own security and stability. This includes men who are chronically complacent, emotionally unstable, or even abusive.

I chose an image of Cassie and Diddy for a reason. Not only did Cassie’s song Love A Loser inspire this post, but her relationship with Diddy also perfectly aligns with the message. Sometimes, women stay in situations far past their expiration date, believing they can love a man into his potential. But at what cost? If a man’s presence in your life brings more stress than stability, it may be time to let him go.

As a woman, you need to ask yourself:

Now that I am in this relationship, has it ignited my spark, or is it dimming it? How is my health? Is he encouraging me to regress visually—like prodding me not to wear makeup or wear certain things? Is he trying to make me dependent in ways that make me feel inferior? How is my mental health? Does he bring drama? Am I still attracted to his qualities? Am I thriving in all aspects?

“Your partner is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself.”

You must ask yourself these questions. As a sovereign beauty, you need to exercise your options and learn how to leave losers. You aren’t helping anyone by allowing men to siphon your energy. These years are critical, and who you pair with seriously affects the trajectory of your life.

Before my husband, I was with someone who wasn’t truly aligned with who I was or the lifestyle I wanted to live. I unapologetically let that go, and my life seriously changed for the better. I aligned with someone disciplined, enterprising, generous (we love that), and very direct about their intentions and what they wanted. This pairing has elevated me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. He couldn’t be a loser if he tried. (Side note: I’m watching random videos on YouTube, and as I type this, “No Scrubs” by TLC just came on—LMAO, ASEEEE!) And you know what? Hell yeah. Spirit says we don’t want no scrubs!

Remember Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. You can’t truly be an alchemist or self-actualize when you and your partner are living pillar to post or if you’re dealing with someone who brings drama. Until you find your divine king—someone who offers both emotional and financial stability and security—be a sovereign beauty. Make sure you are vetting thoroughly, and even after all of that, know your options, avoid specific archetypes, and forgive yourself for ever entertaining losers.

Be comfortable LOSING A LOSER.

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